Encouragement in Marriage: Lifting Each Other Up Daily
The Transforming Power of Words and Support
Being married is a beautiful journey, but it's not always easy. My husband and I have learned that the little things, like a kind word or a simple thank you, make a huge difference. A strong marriage is built on lifting each other up. It's about being each other's biggest fan. Using positive words and showing support every day can truly transform your relationship. It builds so much trust and closeness. I used to be a photographer, and I learned how to see the best in people. I try to do the same in my marriage, focusing on the good and encouraging my husband. This simple habit has strengthened our bond more than anything else.
Why Our Words Matter So Much
The words we say to our husbands are so important. I think of them like the
bricks you use to build a house. With kind and loving words, you can build a
strong and beautiful home for your family. But with harsh or critical words, you
can end up with a pile of rubble. Every single day, we have a choice about what
kind of home we are building with our mouths.
Before I had my children, I worked as a photographer. I quickly learned that a
little encouragement could completely change how someone looked in a picture. A
simple comment like, 'That's a great smile!' would make them relax and light up.
It works exactly the same way with my husband. When I use my words to build him
up, I see him stand taller and feel more confident in everything he does.
It doesn't take much to make a big difference. Just saying 'thank you for
working so hard for us' or 'I really appreciate you fixing the leaky sink' can
turn his whole day around. Men need to feel that their efforts are seen and
respected. When we notice the little things and thank them, it shows them that
we don't take them for granted, and that's a wonderful feeling for anyone.
Being His Biggest Fan, Not His Critic
This world is not always a kind place. Every day, my husband goes out to face
challenges at work and in the world to provide for our family. He needs to know
that when he walks through our front door, he is coming home to his safe place.
It is my job and my joy as his wife to make our home a peaceful refuge where he
can relax and feel loved, not judged.
When my husband gets excited about a new idea for work or a project around the
house, my first job is to be his number one cheerleader. Even if I think his
plan sounds a little crazy, I start by telling him I believe in him. Your
husband's confidence can grow so much just by knowing you are in his corner.
Your support can give him the courage he needs to try something great.
I truly believe that what a man wants most from his wife is her respect and
admiration. He needs to know that you think he is strong, smart, and capable.
One of the best ways to show him this is by praising him in front of other
people. When I tell my friends or my parents about something wonderful my
husband did, I know it makes him feel ten feet tall. It is the highest
compliment you can give him.
Seeing the Good, Even on Bad Days
Let's be honest, some days are just plain hard. With three kids, there are days
when someone is always crying, the laundry is piled high, and it feels like
we're just trying to survive. On those days, it is so easy to get frustrated and
take it out on each other. A short temper can pop up when you're tired and
stressed.
But those hard days are when a little encouragement matters the most. When we're
both feeling worn out, I try to make a special effort to find one good thing to
say. It can be as simple as, 'Honey, I know today was crazy, but you were so
patient with the kids this evening.' It stops the cycle of grumpiness and
reminds us that we are on the same team.
This is not about pretending that problems don't exist. You can't just ignore a
stack of bills or a broken appliance. But choosing to focus on the good in your
husband and your marriage creates a positive feeling in your home. It makes
tackling the hard stuff so much easier because you are doing it together, as
partners who respect and value one another.
The Power of a Listening Ear
Sometimes the most encouraging thing you can do for your husband is to simply be
quiet and listen. When he comes home with a problem from work, our first
instinct as women can be to jump in and offer a list of solutions. But most of
the time, he doesn't want you to fix it. He just wants you to hear him out and
let him process his thoughts out loud.
In today's world, it is so easy to be distracted. That is why when my husband is
talking to me, I make a real effort to put my phone down, turn to face him, and
give him my full attention. This simple act sends a very powerful message that
says, 'You are important to me. What you have to say matters more than anything
else right now.' It shows respect in a very real way.
After he has finished sharing what's on his mind, you don't need to have a
perfect response. You don't need a ten-point plan to solve his problem. Often,
the most powerful and comforting thing you can say is just, 'I am here for you,'
or 'We will get through this together.' Those few words can be the greatest
encouragement of all because they tell him he is not alone.
Building a Legacy of Love
Offering encouragement to your husband every day is about so much more than just
getting through a tough afternoon. Every time you choose a kind word over a
critical one, you are laying a foundation for a marriage that will last a
lifetime. You are building a history of love, trust, and support that will hold
you steady through any storm that comes your way.
My husband and I are very aware that our three children are always watching us.
They are learning about love and marriage from how we treat each other. When my
son and daughters see me speak to their father with respect and see him treat me
with love, we are teaching them a powerful lesson. We are showing them what a
healthy, God-honoring marriage is supposed to look like.
At the end of the day, all of this work builds something beautiful. A home that
is filled with encouragement is a happy and peaceful home. It becomes a place
where not just my husband, but our children too, feel completely safe, deeply
valued, and truly loved. Creating that kind of family legacy is one of the
greatest gifts a wife and mother can give.